Monday, June 27, 2011

FAQs my mind revealed

These are certain questions which keep ringing in my mind on and off and to which i get instant answers from within my heart. The thought process has quite a shrill irritating tone whereas the voice of the heart is loud, clear and very firm. It is as though I have two personalities. One which is always confused, negative and gives me wrong directions and the other which hopes, aspires inspite of all difficulties, always positive, never reactive but always acts and is extremely focussed. But the former is quite predominant and it takes quite an extra effort to stop its functioning. Feelings like jealousy, envy, laziness, false ego are like clouds which hide the clear sky. They can be described as slush or mud. The voice of the heart is like the lotus flower growing out of the slushy pond.

The process of Meditation begins...

Q.1. Why can't everything in this world be always beautiful and sweet?

Ans: Beauty and sweetness are qualities which are very relative. A fisherwomen who always sleeps with a smell of fishes by her side does not get sleep smelling flowers. To her fishes are the sweetest smelling in the world. When one stops differentiating between various objects and have an equal view of all things then one shall discover that the world is truly beautiful and sweet. For e.g. one must appreciate both the taste of milk chocolate and the taste of bittergourd.

Q.2. What is the reason that there are so many pairs of opposites? What is the purpose behind it?

Ans: Darkness and Light, Truth and Falsehood, 0 and 1 and the things in between. It is truly a complicated world we live in. One must observe that these pairs of opposites complement each other and one cannot survive without the other. Falsehood must exist temporarily to enhance the quality of Truth. It is to realise the importance of Truth. If one is given a cup of coffee with too much sugar in it then one gets bored but drinks it all the same. With salt in the coffee, one immediately spits it out and makes another cup of coffee adding ample amounts of sugar. Thats life!

Q.3. What does this mean "Falsehood must exist temporarily"?

Ans: It is very easy to fall down from a cliff than to climb a mountain. Easy to go down the stairs than to move up. Falsehood is like that. When one realises that there is not a wee bit of ecstacy in falling down, when one realises that the joy in climbing up a mountain facing all odds is incomparable, till one reaches the highest summit the odds are heavily against him/her. Once the person reaches the destination then there is no reason for falsehood to exist.

Q.4. What is highest summit? Is that the destination one is supposed to reach?

Ans: Take the course of a river. A small trickle, then a stream, fast flowing river and breaking into various tributaries and finally it empties into the sea. The Ganges river starts from Gangotri in the Himalayas and empties into the Bay of Bengal. Just as the river has a purpose so does everything in life. A lion's purpose is to be born, grow, hunt, reproduce and die. Human beings too have a purpose. Other living creatures seem to be controlled under the forces of nature but it is we humans, who are born not to destroy nature but to appreciate her as well as think of something beyond.

Q.5. Think of something beyond?


Ans: Us human beings are special because we are provided with the special ability to think, reason and calculate. We have put this into destructive use and have wasted so much of our energy and resources in seeking after what we really don't find happiness in. Yes! happiness is our goal. But what can give one permanent happiness? Is it buying a new car? A top designer wear? Or winning a lottery? Helping people?
Even sometimes by doing good deeds, one does not get permanent happiness.

Q.6. Then what gives Permanent Happiness?

Ans: Perhaps the most difficult and the most important question that my mind can ever think of. The question itself is wrong! Happiness is not externally driven or given by something. It is a state which one chooses for oneself. To be happy, one must simply accept all, without a questioning mind, without cloudy thoughts, all that happens to one. It is very difficult but not impossible. It does not mean a state of inertia or inaction. One must act and continue to act like helping an injured person on the road, helping mother do the household chores but should one have to pay that person's hospital bill, should mother scold, likewise all the consequences of one's actions one must accept humbly without getting the least bit affected. Thats what Lord Krishna says in the Bhagavad Gita about not clinging on to one's own actions.

Tuesday, June 14, 2011

Salwaar Kameez- Clever Invention of India

People ask me: Which dress is your most favourite? I say jeans and T shirt. Then they ask: Which is the dress which is the most comfortable? I say Salwaar Kameez. Many women though they love jeans or saree cannot deny that salwaar is the most comfortable, decent Indian wear. It is the loose fitting dress which covers the entire body. The typical salwaar is a long top which comes just beyond the knees with slits on both sides and the Kameez is a loose pyjama like shaped uniquely with a ribbon or nada to adjust tightness around the hips. The dress comes with a dupatta which is a piece of cloth that hangs like a chain around the neck.

There are many variations. Some like their SK to be tight and figure hugging with a deep neck and back. But the loose fitting cotton with closed back, average neck is my personal favorite and ideal for summer heat. The dupatta works two ways. First it protects and covers the front portion and second the back too is well covered in case the salwaar material is too transparent.

I didn't much bother to trace back the origin of the dress. They say its Punjabi. Whatever it may be, it has become the most sought after dress by all Indian women. No India Fashion show is complete without the usual display of collection of SK. Colleges have made it a compulsory wear. Even the western wear jeans has been made Indian- jeans and kurta- very much like SK. SK materials as well as ready made dresses are available in plenty in all clothes showrooms. Because of the high demand they are turning out to be quite expensive. A good quality cotton salwaar material costs minimum Rs. 300/-.

SK offers a lot of free movement and space which is not found in the saree or sometimes even jeans. I personally don't like anything to be tight. It restricts my breathing. One can run, jump, fight, climb with the SK without being too self conscious. One can rightly say that the SK is one of the cleverest inventions of India which has brought about a sea change in women's attitude and also has contributed to women's empowerment. Now everyone even from those below poverty line and the remotest of villages has started embracing this dress. Long live SK! Long live womanhood!